Thursday, May 20, 2010
5 things you should never do while chatting on a gay site
We all have our own fantasies and expectations from a typical gay forum. It could be a friendly chat with like minded people, a hope for a long term relationship or may be just a casual fuck. Here are the 5 things which you should absolutely NOT DO in a gay portal.
1. Never start a conversation without reading the guy's profile. His pic and headline may suggest something while he may be a totally different guy. Why waste your time and energy into pinging a guy who doesn't fit your bill! Make sure you read his profile well and know what to expect. Of course, there are many who would just copy and paste some 'interesting' stuff in their profile but you will know it when you read it and if you are like me, you would not bother messaging him anyways if he can't even put together few lines about himself.
2. Don't have naked pics of you in your profile. You may really be horny and craving for sex but never put your naked pics for general display. If you need to have revealing pics then keep them private and send them on request only. Having sleazy pics sets a wrong impression about you to start with and you stand to lose a chance with a guy who may be decent and horny at the same time!
3. Don't show pics of you when you were a kid. Having a pic of the recent you makes sense for 2 reasons - first, you're being true and setting the first base for a mutual trust (even for a casual hookup, a certain amount of trust is needed) and secondly, you are taking a step towards avoiding an embarrassing situation. Being turned down when you meet the guy in person is the worst thing that can happen to you. Try to have a pic which resembles you and try to resemble the pic that you have in your profile!
4. Don't give out personal details too soon. Even if it is a trusted gay network, you and your privacy may be at risk. This piece of advice is not just for closeted gays but even people who are out to the world since giving out personal information could be a major security risk. Make sure you can trust the person you are chatting with before you exchange phone numbers or (worst) address.
5. Never give away information about your family or friends. For the people in the closet the reasons are obvious. For those who are out, it is still not recommended to give out details about your dear ones on the gay portal. You basically expose your friends and family to a lot of risk when you give any information about them to someone who you don't quite know yet. Gays have a general trust within the community but think before you share information which puts others in a situation which could ruin their personal or professional life.