Sunday, May 16, 2010
Root Cause Behind Gay Suicides And Crimes
The gay world is governed by insecurities. The insecurity of unacceptability by the loved ones, the insecurity of being shunned by the society and more importantly, the insecurity of growing old without a partner who would stand by in tough times. The fake accents, the quick humour, the urge to look 'beautiful' and stand out of the crowd are all rooted in these insecurities.
The romance in the gay world is very dynamic. Most social networking sites meant for the LGTB community are cluttered with sex seekers and individuals seeking a relationship as a remedy to the miseries of their lives. And frankly, the sex seeking nature or the one night stands are never looked down upon if executed with class and in compatible quarters. The typical gay relationships are ever threatened by common friends lurking for an opportunity to sleep with their friend's partner and it is not uncommon to find a complex mesh of relationship of ex-boyfriends and current lovers.
This may a be reason why 'finding true love' is almost a mirage in the gay society. Most successful gay couples that I have come across (and I have seen quite of lot of them!) are either engaged in a prepetual fight for attention from their partners who happen to 'notice' others in gay parites or are comstantly trying to find out about their partner's affairs from their friends or (for the happy lot) have made peace with the fact that sex with other men (as long as it is without emotions) is acceptable and they call themselves in an 'open relationship'.
The absense of an institution like marriage in the LGTB world is largely responsible for infidelity. The 'relationships' that are thriving in the closet are most vulnerable because there is no social responsibility whatsoever! A minor moment of incompatibility can be a cause of a breakup because the stakes are not huge. The two individuals are not likely to face many inquisitive moments because very few people know about them in the first place.
This apparent polygamy arising out of the gay social structure is responsible for the insecurity in the LGTB community which makes them such a vulnerable lot. Gay suicide cases are not common but given the small size of the gay community the percentage is quite high. A society where gay marriages are accepted without the disgruntled gasp of inevitability, may see lesser cases of gay crimes, suicides and in general would create a happier lot of people!